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The Power of a Compliment

5 Aug

Have you ever had that moment where you see someone walking down the street or sit next to you and noticed something they were wearing that looked great on them? Did you then give them a compliment?

As outgoing as I can be, I verbalize only a small fraction of the compliments that I have in my head. I’m never sure if it will be taken well or appear as a weird stranger approaching them.  Recently, I was grabbing a bottle of wine around the corner from my apartment and noticed the woman in front of me wearing a bright shade of hot pink with patterned black and white shorts. The color was stunning on her and complimented her skin tone so well. I’m too pale to wear that color and was a tad jealous. As she turned around looking for her partner, I took my chance to give her the compliment she deserved since she was looking in my direction, mentioning how beautiful the color looked on her.

She immediately began to glow saying she doesn’t wear the color often and it was the nicest thing she’s heard all day. She couldn’t stop smiling and it was obvious her confidence had been boosted in that moment. As innocent as my intentions were, it meant so much to her just to hear what I hoped she had already known having picked out that shirt to wear.

After she left, I gave this some thought. I realized I don’t compliment people as often as I should. No matter how confident you are, it’s nice to get affirmation that someone has taken notice of you. It’s lovely to hear and makes you feel a little warmer inside. Even though I have a strong sense of style that I feel great in, I still get excited when someone mentions they like what I’m wearing. It gives me an extra pep in my step.

Secondly, it gave me hope for humanity in some way. Living in a big city like New York, everyone is so focused on themselves, whether it’s rushing to work, catching a train or just not paying attention to their surroundings, that it felt refreshing to step outside of myself where it was positively received. We can lift each other up more than we think we can. It doesn’t always require volunteer hours or charity events, but merely a kind gesture.

Giving this compliment showed me that if we all just paid a little more attention to each other, took our eyes off our phones, and really looked around, we would all live in a friendlier place. Maybe that’s the optimistic Texan in me where I want everyone to get along and be good friends, and as my boyfriend says that even buying a stick of gum in Texas means a 20 minute conversation, but I sincerely believe that small gestures can really transform into something greater.

So the next time you see someone wearing something you think looks fantastic, speak up and say something. You’ll be sure to brighten someone’s day. Don’t we all need a bit of that anyways?


A Tribute to my Style Icon: My Grandmother

10 Apr


I had a special relationship with my grandmother; Nana is what I called her. One that many peers my age don’t have with their grandparents. We used to see each other several times a week growing up where many of those were me going over to her apartment and just chatting for hours. When I moved to New York, it it turned into at least one if not two or three phone calls a week. If I got busy and it had been too long, I was quick to call to catch up where she would tell me, “I was thinking of you and almost called you.” Feeling smart, i’d always respond, “well I beat you to it!”

We talked about everything, from her childhood, family, my personal life (I often sought her advice), to current events. I soon realized we were practically the same person, just born 55 years apart. The more we became friends, and she was  my best friend, the more I realized where I got my artistic side from and my curiosity for fashion. I have a sarcastic sense of humor from my dad, am strong willed like my mother, but where did my sense of fashion come from?

It wasn’t until I watched home movies of my birthday parties when I was little, did I notice my grandmother wearing heels and an A-line shirt dress with a waist belt to the arcade where my sister and I were eating cake and playing in ball pits. How glamorous was she?! She had the height and build of a model, and could have been one, but chose that lifestyle wasn’t for her and merely shared her beauty with us.

And she was beautiful. In every sense of the word she was. She had a contagious smile, a charming soul and  an uplifting spirit you couldn’t resist. Even in her later years, she still wore slacks and blouses to merely “chill” or “hang out” with the family on a Saturday afternoon. She was glamorous, down to earth and spectacular. I will miss her but will forever be thankful for her. I couldn’t ask for a better style icon.

Fashion Tag!

19 Aug

I saw this on another blog and knew I had to do this too. Just a little more about me and my style-

1. How would you describe your style?

I am very much  a casual dresser but with luxe tendencies. I am often found in jeans with a nice top and a fun accessories.

2. What are your wardrobe staples?

I have 3 big staples I always make sure I have in my wardrobe.

1. Black Blazer

It’s a classic piece that goes with everything for any occasion. I often use mine to throw over a dress at work or as a light jacket on a chilly night out. It’s a simple and easy way to snazz up an outfit. And you can find them anywhere at any price point!

2. Solid Colored Tshirts

I own an array of printed skirts and jeans that I often pair with solid colored t-shirts when I’m not in the mood to get dressed up.  I always make sure I have black, grey and at least 1 fun color on hand.

3. Quality Leather Handbag

I’m not referring to a Louis Vuitton or Chloe, but a nicer leather bag that isn’t from H & M or Steve Madden, goes a long way and pulls an outfit together even on your jeans and t-shirt days.

3. Most expensive item in your closet?

I bought a pair of Givenchy Sandals that had never been worn at a consignment  store for $90. I just about died when I found them and am still too afraid to wear them in fear I’ll ruin them.


4. Most wanted item?

I mean, I need this.


5. Favorite designer?

Favorite designers are definitely Diane Von Furstenberg and Oscar De La Renta. They both understand the female figure and use prints, colors and embellishments that accentuate the wearer without overpowering them.

6. How much do you spend on clothes?

I shop way too much and overall spend too much. But on individual items, I don’t spend much at all. I frequent the resale stores to get the designer brands I love at a price that helps me sleep at night.

7. What are your favorite places to shop?

I love a good resale store. They have all the best brands at great prices and you’ll never have that fear of seeing someone on the street wearing the same thing as you. You get to be creative and make your own outfits versus buying an outfit that is on the same rack at a department store. It makes me unique.

8. Favorite fragrance?

Marc Jacobs Lola. Feminine but not too floral.

9. What’s your favorite way to do your hair?

I have naturally curly hair so all I have to do is throw mousse in when I get out of the shower and i’m out the door. My natural curls are all me and definitely my favorite.

10. What is your go-to outfit when you have no idea what to wear?

Jeans and a blousy type top. The combo is comfortable yet pulled together.

11. One fashion trend you wish would come back or stay?

Anyone remember this shoe trend? It’s vintage inspired and was in style for a hot second. I loved it and wish it had more life.SteveMaddenImperialGreyPatent_Front_300

12. Show us your most prized possession in your wardrobe.

My Chanel. Found it at a junky thrift store in my college town of Nacogdoches, Texas for $50! The guy was born and raised in that town and had no idea what he had. Win for me! I’ll never get rid of this.


What inspires your style?


“Regifted” Fashion

28 Jun
     My name is Jamie and I am a fashion 
enthusiast living in New York. Every day I walk past beautiful store 
windows glorifying high-end retail where I can't help but daydream of 
when I will be able to afford these beautiful pieces to 
happily add to my wardrobe. Alas, I discovered that looking as if I
shopped 5th Avenue didn't mean I had to pay those prices. In fact, 
those prices are unrealistic and slightly obnoxious for most New York 
fashion lovers.

     After this realization, and possibly a stroke of genius,
I started frequenting resale, vintage and consignment, and
discount stores for the best deals on designers I love and for a style
that is truly unique to me. One person's closet castaways is another 
one's found fashion treasure. We regift every birthday, Christmas,
and anniversary. Why not regift our wardrobe? Toss what is unnecessary
in your closet and add what someone else didn't have an eye for to
yours!     I am going to show you where you can find your "regifted" style in
the great fashion world of New York, one that your wallet and closet 
will appreciate.